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Does February 14 leave you quizzing yourself about why you don’t have a date or someone to dote on? Valentine’s Day can be a wonderful opportunity for self-care and personal celebration, rather than a day to feel left out.
Tips for Surviving Valentine’s Day
Here’s how to make it meaningful and enjoyable:
- Do some acts of kindness. If you’re feeling down, channel that energy into helping others. Volunteer at a local shelter, visit an elderly neighbor, or send cards to friends and family expressing your appreciation for them. Acts of kindness can shift your focus outward and remind you of the many different types of love that exist beyond romantic relationships.
- Transform the day into a celebration of self-love. Take a bite out of loneliness by planning something special just for yourself – perhaps that fancy restaurant you’ve been wanting to try. There can be something empowering about confidently dining solo or ordering your favorite takeout. Remember, your favorite dessert will never desert you! Combine an Epicurean delight with a cozy atmosphere at home with candles and your favorite movies.
Create a holiday that suits you! Consider hosting a “Galentine’s Day” or “Palentine’s Day” gathering. Invite other single friends for a potluck dinner, game night, or movie marathon. You might be surprised how many people would appreciate an alternative celebration. This can become an anticipated annual tradition that’s just as meaningful as traditional Valentine’s celebrations.- Put down the phone. Limit exposure to social media that can be riddled with unrealistic messages about how you should be paired and how your life should be filled with romance. Stop shoulding on yourself!
- Don’t scroll for ex’s. Resist the temptation to hook up with anyone so that you are not alone on Valentine’s Day. One day of lust may be followed by a day of loathing.
- Celebrate you! Use the day for personal growth and pampering. Book a massage, take a luxurious bath, or spend time on a hobby you’ve been neglecting. Maybe sign up for that cooking class or art workshop you’ve been eyeing. Learning and exploring something new can be incredibly fulfilling and might even lead to meeting like-minded people.
- Treat yourself. How about going to your favorite gourmet grocery store? Remember, aisle B will always be there for you!
There is Nothing Wrong with Being Alone on Valentine’s Day
Being single on Valentine’s Day is completely normal and valid.
Instead of viewing it as lacking something, reframe it as having freedom and independence. Use the money you might have spent on a partner’s gift to invest in yourself – whether that’s buying something you’ve wanted for a while or putting it toward a future goal or experience.
The key is to approach the day with intention and self-compassion, rather than letting external pressure define your experience. Finally, if someone asks if you have a date for Valentine’s Day say, “Yes, its February 14th!”
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